It’s the start of a new year and with that comes new goals, resolutions, and reflections on the past year that has quickly come and gone. When they say “the days are long and the years are short” they weren’t kidding! Something I started in the new year of 2016 was focusing on a word that would define my year and be something I wanted to focus more on in every area of my life. Last year’s word was “Mindful.” I wanted to be more intentional in being a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a co-worker and I wanted to focus on what really mattered. As 2016 was coming to an end I wanted to reflect on the year and start thinking about all the things in store for 2017 while continuing to be mindful, but wanted to focus on something more in the new year. I am expecting baby number two in March, the house needs major de-cluttering and cleaning, and I’m constantly feeling stressed and overwhelmed with everything that needs to get done before our little nugget arrives…enter fussy mama! The word “fussy” can be defined as a state of being “anxiously worried with details in excess” and “particularly hard to satisfy or please.” We as moms and well women in general, I feel, are genetically wired to be fussy individuals. We constantly have various things on our plates…obligations, activities, day-to-day responsibilities that we strive to make perfect. We stress, worry, and increasingly dwell on the details that we tend to forget to live in the moment and take in what really matters in our everyday lives.
Now if you ask my husband, and anyone who knows me really well, they would probably tell you that I’m one of the fussiest people they know! I tend to let things get to me and stress me out, I get overwhelmed quickly, and am always anxious about every little detail to the point where it makes me physically and mentally drained and unpleasant to be around. It really hit me one day last year when I just said out loud to myself “I’m so fussy that I’m frustrating and annoying myself!” And then it hit me like a brick wall crashing down on me…I was flashing back to the years past since having Lilly and really having a revelation that when I get in my fussy state, I am very unpleasant to be around and nothing that I want to get done was getting done productively and I was finding myself in this state all of the time! I know our life is going to quickly change in the next couple of months, more stress is going to be added with the addition of a new baby and the three page long to-do list that needs to get done before his arrival and with all of that I have vowed to make a change for myself and my family. I want to be “un-fussy” in 2017! I want to be more patient, relaxed, easygoing, mindful, content, intentional, focused, open, un-cluttered, and live my life with a purpose. I want to focus and be mindful of what is really important in life and live everyday intentionally for myself, my husband, my kids, and everyone around me.
I have no idea where this un-fussy journey is going to take me this year, but I do know that I can’t wait to find out. Since the ringing in of 2017 I have woken up every morning and said to myself, “Let’s be un-fussy today” and just by doing that I have been more aware of how I communicate and deal with what the day has in store. I also end everyday by writing down one good thought of the day and it really has changed the way I handle and reflect on each day. Join me on this movement to be more “un-fussy” and see how we can strive for a simpler, more content, fuss-free way of life!